Blame it on my boner reminds me that
When you care a lot about something, it often seems harder to attain. The more valuable something is, the more you see it as being coveted by others as well. And if you don’t feel sure of your worth, you may start to think that you might not deserve whatever it is that you want the most. This is not to advise you to care less about a goal of yours. It is more about loosening your grip just a little bit. As you might try to entice a canary to take a seed from your hand, you need to approach your goal with care and concern, but not with anxiety or desperation.