Could please you understand, that your view of dichotomy does not work for me.
I love to wear mini skirts. You have to understand, it does not mean I agree for you to touch part you can’t see not covered by my mini skirts (or also parts you can’t see) – without my serious permission.
I love reading text books. You have to understand, it does not mean I do not enjoy talking dirty when it’s time to talk dirty :p
I listen indie music. You have to understand, I will dance hearing Justin Bieber’s songs.
I love being a mother. You have to understand, it does mean I cannot be bitchy. I swear when I have too.
I love being sexy. You have to understand, at the same time I present my naked article about IT using statistics analysis.
I believe women are equal to men. In fact, women (most of the time) are more clever, braver, and stronger. You have to understand, no matter what I enjoy cooking and will bring you coffee. It does not matter when I feel I like to do it.
I love to play tip, enjoy to do hide and seek, can’t help not to lay on the grass (then to fall asleep), love to fly the kite, and do silly things. You have to understand, I also discuss (adult) serious thing. I do (adult) thoughtful stuffs.
I am proper church goers. But you have to understand, sometimes I watch porn.
Am a bitch, a lover, a child, a mother, a student, a teacher, a sinner, a saint, am feminine, am masculine, am hell, am nirvana, a sanctuary, a battlefield, fight for and let go of. Nothing in between.
If you cannot understand, just accept it.